Dear Pastor,

I am 35. My girlfriend is 25. I used my father's car to go to her house. In the middle of the night, when I was ready to leave, the car would not start.

My girlfriend told me I could use her car. In the morning, I could take the mechanic to see what was going on. I agreed.

On my way home, police officers stopped me. I reached into the car pocket and took out the documents. At the bottom of the car pocket there was an envelope. I curiously opened it. It was a card from a man, showing half his body, his penis, and a lot of sexy words like, "Do you like what you see, that's me?" I was so shocked. I could not believe my girl was cheating on me. I became nervous, but was able to go home.

The next day I went to see her. She knew something was wrong. I did not say anything to her but I did not put back the card. The following day I went back to see her. I told her what I saw. She swore she was not cheating. She said she never went to bed with him. I don't know how to trust her again.

Why would a guy send a girl that picture if they do not have anything going?

B.L

Dear B.L.,

I suggest you accept what your girlfriend told you. The man who sent that sexy card is evidently trying to build a relationship with your woman. If he had sex with her, he probably would have said, "I like what you gave me" etc. I could be wrong. Give your girlfriend another chance.

She was foolish enough to keep this card. She should have destroyed it immediately. That type of mistake she will never make again.

Pastor