Dear Pastor,

I am 24 and have two daughters. They were born two years apart, both for a married man. He is my second boyfriend, I believe that I love him more than his wife. He is always with me. He does not leave me at all.

After I had the second child, his wife found out about me. He stayed away for a couple months but came back. His wife went to America. I was hoping she wouldn't have come back but she did. She has two children, also, but they are her sister's children. She does not have any for him. He is planning to build a house for us. Please give me your advice.

V.L.

Dear V.L.,

If you are hoping this man is going to leave his wife and marry you, perish that thought. It is unlikely to happen. If this man wanted to do so, he would have done it already. I really cannot encourage you to continue this relationship. However, this man should support his children. You would be wise to get your own man. Otherwise, you will end up becoming a old women hoping that this man will divorce his wife and marry you.

Pastor