Dear Pastor,

I am 25 and a mother of two children. I am pregnant again. I did not want another child, but my husband insisted we should because, if anything should happen to one, only one would be alive.

When I got pregnant I could not believe because I was on the pill. Something went wrong. My husband was very happy and still is.

I got laid off and it came at the wrong time. The company was facing financial problems. Since I have been pregnant, I have been hearing rumours about my husband having an affair with another woman.

He said that was the last thing he would do. I asked the woman, whose name was being called. she was very upset with me for thinking she would have an affair with my husband. We are good friends and go way back. She is not married. She is the godmother of one of my children.

I am not interested in getting another job. We can meet our bills and support our children. I was never a jealous woman, but since my husband's name was called with another woman, whenever it is getting late in the evenings and I don't see him, my thoughts run wild, as if I am going crazy. He is the first man I have had and I hope he will be the last.

I feel sorry for asking the woman if she was having an affair with my husband. Since then, she has stopped calling me. She was such a close friend of mine. I don't know what to do.

O.G.

Dear O.G.,

I suggest you call the woman and apologise. Tell her you cherish her friendship. Tell her you wish to meet with her, but will not mention anything about her having an affair with your husband.

Perhaps this woman has decided to keep out of your way. So, if you know for sure that nothing is going on between your husband and her, you should try and rebuild the friendship.

Your husband was eager for you to get pregnant because he felt if one of your children should die, only one would be left alive. To me, it does not make any sense because one can never replace a child with another.

Sometimes people try to break up the friendship of others for selfish reasons. I am sorry you yielded to temptation to call this woman. When you asked your husband about the alleged affair, and he told you nothing was going on between himself and her, you should have left it alone. Take care of yourself.

Pastor