Dear Pastor,

I had a girlfriend. We were living together. whenever I went to work, she leaves, goes out and returns before I got home.

We don't have any children. When I was told she goes out every night, I did not believe because sometimes I would call her and ask, "What are you doing?" she would say, "I am watching television", I could hear the television. However, it was another man's house she was at. he had his television on.

This girl came from the country and wasn't working. She was staying with cousins. They didn't treat her good. She didn't have anywhere to go but back to the country. I took her in and helped her. She didn't even have much clothes. I bought a stove, then a refrigerator.

We lived together for three years. I had a single bed and the both of us tried to sleep on the single bed until I was able to buy a double bed.

I trusted her. She told me she wanted to go back to school. I was planning to send her back, but she got pregnant and lost the baby. This girl is ungrateful. I found the place where she goes when I go to work. It's a much older man for her. I took away the phone I bought her and went through it. I saw the texts she sent him. I called him. He said he did not know she was living with a man. She told him she was living with her sister, but her sister didn't want anyone to come there. I told him he can have her because I don't want her back.

I don't believe she lost the baby. I believe she aborted the pregnancy because the man believed he was the one who got her pregnant. I now have a new girlfriend, but this girl is begging me to take her back.

O.T.

Dear O.T

Do not give this young woman another chance in your life. She is dangerous, very ungrateful and a big liar. She is greedy. She got a lot out of you, but was not satisfied, that's why she was trying to rip off a much older man. Let her go. Stay with your new girlfriend. Please, don't judge other women by the same standards of your ex-girlfriend.

Pastor