Dear Pastor,

I was living with a man who was more interested in gambling and drinking than having a good relationship.

We did not have children but I had a niece. I brought her to live with us.

My niece told me my boyfriend made a pass at her. She was 17. She said he stares at her. She asked him why he stares at her. She said he liked her.

He told her not to tell me, "don't tell your aunt, that is between you and me".

I asked him why he had to have that kind of conversation with my niece. He said he was only joking with her. I told him not to make that kind of joke.

Everywhere I went, I had to take my niece because I did not trust my boyfriend. She was a good help to me.

One day when she came from school, he was at home. He cursed and told her to get out of the house because she is a 'dirty gyal' for telling me what he told her. I had to send her home.

He swore he did not say anything to her, neither did he call her a 'dirty gyal'.

Now I know who is dirty because he got two girls pregnant, and I am about to put him out. He is not working and doesn't contribute to the house.

He is begging to stay but, Pastor, though I want to forgive him, I can't. The more I think about him getting two girls pregnant, the more I harden my heart and want him to leave. Please tell me what to do.

T.L.

Dear T.L.,

Kick this man out and go back for your niece. You gave him a chance the first time your niece complained about him, but he insulted your niece. He thinks you are a fool.

Perhaps you may consider yourself a fool because he has no respect for you.

He has now impregnated two women so there can be no further argument.

Throw him out, without mercy. Inform the police in the area of what you are about to do. They will give you advice.

Pastor