Dear Pastor,

I am 20. My boyfriend is living in Canada. Everything was okay before he left.

He is 32. I met him at a party. He told me he loved me at first sight. I had a problem.

I couldn't pay my school fees. My parents couldn't help me so he gave me money.

Now that he is gone, he is sending me money, but I heard he got a girl pregnant in Canada.

I am worried. I asked when is he coming back to Jamaica. He said he doesn't know.

He said he'll try to continue helping me, but I should try and find another boyfriend. I am so worried.

I want him back in my life. I don't want to lose him. Please tell me what to do, pastor.

T.E.

Dear T.E.,

Life does not always go the way you expect it. This man was very kind to assist in paying your school fees. He has promised to continue doing so.

You don't know how long he will continue, but said you should not sit around waiting for him.

This man is giving you a way out. Don't waste your time relying on him, expecting him to return to Jamaica to you.

It's not going to happen. I hope I have not spoiled your day by telling you the truth.

Pastor