Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing you. Some men don't know good women. I am 54. I used to live with a man.

We were together for six years and have a son. We used to live well. I am a butcher. I have been a butcher for 22 years. I didn't have any reason to cheat on this man.

When our son was three, he told me the child was not his, so I left his house. He told everybody I stole his money.

He scandalised my name, saying I gave him a 'jacket'. Pastor, if you them both, you'd know they're related.

The only difference in their appearance is that the is child is fat like.

It has been years since I left his father. I have not been involved with any other man, and my boy is doing very well. Thank you, pastor.

S

Dear S,

I can imagine how you felt when your child's father told you he didnot believe he is the biological father. What would make a man take that position without having facts?

What went into his mind? Did he say it because he wanted to hurt you? Was he joking or did he really believe you were involved with another man?

I know relatives often say things. They put doubt into the minds of fathers, and some men are easily swayed.

They don't use common sense so they believe whatever they are told and end up destroying their relationships.

You are an intelligent woman. You couldn't live with a man who was suspicious of you and doubted whether you were faithful.

Thank God you were able to stand on your own and not to rely on him. I am glad your son is doing well. Perhaps he will never need to ask his father for anything. After all, his father doesn't believe he is his son. Keep strong, my dear, and may the Lord bless you.

Pastor