Dear Pastor,

My boyfriend was working at a business place as a security guard and the boss decided to hire some new girls. And as soon as these girls started to work there, they started to have relations with the guys. My boyfriend is 25 and he started to befriend one of the girls. She is 18. She is pregnant now. She is calling my boyfriend's name and saying that he is the one who got her pregnant. My boyfriend only had sex with her one time and he used a condom and when he was about to ejaculate, he pulled out although he had on the condom, so nothing went as she is saying.

The other guards know me and they said that this girl was having sex with the men who work with the company, so my boyfriend shouldn't own the child. I am not swearing for him because he is a cheater. He cheated on me, but I thought he had stopped. I am young and I can leave him because I am working. He is crying and begging me not to leave him, but I caught him red-handed already with a girl who lives in the tenement yard that we live and they were having sex right on my bed.

I told him if he is sure the child is not his, I would give him another chance, but if the child is his, I would leave him. I try to save myself all the time for him, but he is always fooling around with other girls and my cup is full. I am not taking his behaviour anymore.

F.L.

Dear F.L.,

Could your boyfriend be so unfortunate that of all the guys this girl is alleged to be having sex with, she has only called his name as the man who got her pregnant? He told you that although he was wearing a condom, when he was about to ejaculate, he withdrew. That is very unusual for a man to do. Why would he withdraw if he was wearing a condom?

The truth is, mam, I don't believe this young man and you don't believe him either. He plays around and he is not smart. You should seriously consider leaving this man. If you want to wait until the girl has the baby, you may consider encouraging him to do a DNA test. But you know that he is a liar, so it might be in your interest to leave him as soon as possible.

Pastor