Dear Pastor,

I am 35 and I am having a friendship with a woman who is 40. When I was working, we got along very well, but I got laid off and since that time she has changed. When I was working, I gave her everything. She works, but since I am not working and can't give her money, she comes and goes as she likes. I am living in her house, and everytime we have a little argument, she reminds me that the place is hers. I am waiting on a call to leave this woman. I do everything for her. When I go out, I come back home and I cook and clean. The only thing I do not wash is her underwear. I think she should wash that herself.

Pastor, whenever I have money, we are such good friends. She would even offer to wash my feet, but when I am broke, everything is different with her and she walks around grumbling.

E.K.

Dear E.K.,

If you have relatives, ask them to allow you to live with them and get out of this woman's house. There are some women who treat their men very well whether or not they have money. This woman knows that you are not working, and that when you were working you provided for the home. She is being very disrespectful. You are not welcome in her house. She does not love you. What she wants from you is money, so the sooner you get out of that woman's house, the better it will be for you. When a man has a woman like this woman, it is better he lives under a tree. At least, he will be able to breathe fresh air.

Pastor