Has sex with men while I'm there

Dear Pastor,

I am 15 and having a problem. I live with my mother and brother. My brother is 19 and doesn't always sleep at home. He stays with his girlfriend sometimes. When he is here, we share the same bed. It is not a problem. My mother has her own bed but it is divided from our room by a curtain.

My mother is always bringing home different men to sleep with her. These men pay her for sex. She told me she does it because she is not working. She has a boyfriend, but he works abroad.

He sends her money but it is not enough. She pays for me to go to school, so I love her. I promised I would not tell her boyfriend what she does.

It is very embarrassing to hear my mother having sex while I am there. One night, it was very bad. It was as if the man did not care. He was grunting like a pig. I was not asleep. I heard everything. I had to put the pillow over my head. When they were finished having sex, my mother got dressed and went out with him. When she returned in the morning, she told me went to a rural party.

I have a boyfriend but we've never had sex. My mother does not want him to come to the house unless she is there. When my brother is here, my mother does not bring men to the house. She goes out instead.

I love my mother, but I don't respect her.

C.L.

Dear C.L.,

Your mother does not have any respect for herself or you. How could a woman allow men to have sex with her when her daughter is right there? She is a slack woman. Her standard is extremely low. She is not setting any example for you. She doesn't want your boyfriend to come to the house, but she brings different men there to have sex. I think she is trying to say she is an adult and can do whatever she wants.

Your mother's boyfriend is in America and sends money for her. If she finds it difficult to maintain herself on what he sends, she should seek a job instead of prostituting herself in your presence.

Please do not follow in your mother's footsteps. Do your best in school. Make good grades and get a career. Keep the courage.

Pastor