Dear Pastor,

I am 19 and I have a sister who is 17. I have a friend i call my boyfriend. I introduced him to my younger sister and from the time he met her, he lost interest in me. She used to tell me everything he tells her but now she is in love with him. She doesn't tell me anything again. She is very rude. My boyfriend asked me for sex and I told him no and she gave it to him. I asked her about it and she told me that it was only one time she had sex with him and she did it to prove to him that she loves him.

Do you think that I should still talk to this man? Sometimes I am in bed and I am thinking about him, but we never had sex.

T.O.

Dear T.O.,

You should not have anything to do with this man. He is a worthless and, good-for-nothing man. He developed a friendship with you and, at the same time, was having an eye on your sister. She became impressed with him and developed a friendship with him, too. When he asked you for sex and you did not comply, he had it with your sister. What a shame.

What kind of love is she talking about? She is young and he must have told her that by having sex with him she would prove that she loves him. I hope that he does not visit your home anymore. And I hope that you would not be too hard on your sister. Try to show her that what she did was wrong and try to convince her also that this man does not love her. He is only using her. Whether she believes it or not, you ought to say it to her.

Pastor