He wants to make me the mother of his sixth child

Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column. I pray God continues to bless you. I have been dating an older man for nearly four months. He is 41 and has five children. I am going to be 22 soon. He has been having issues with his common-law wife at home. They have been living together for 10 years.

However, his intention is to find someone who makes him happy. He thinks I am that person and has fallen in love with me. All he needs is some time to make everything OK because he and his woman have been having problems. I realise that I am falling in love. He treats me well and I don't have a problem with him. We are honest and talk about everything. He told me he wants us to live together so we can have a child together.

He is very responsible and I think he would be a great father to my child. I watch how he handles his children; he has a great relationship with them. Am I crazy for loving a man who already has someone, whether they have issues or not? Please help me, pastor. Pray for me and my family. I keep having negative thoughts that he will do to me what he has done to his common-law wife.

Unknown

Dear Unknown,

Your letter shows that you are not very smart and will believe anything a man tells you. You need to wise up. This man is 41 and has fathered five children. He is living with a woman. You have foolishly become involved with him. I repeat, you are not wise.

You are 21 and you believe every trash this man tells you. Haven't you wondered why he cannot settle down with a woman but believes he can make life with you? You are easily fooled and if you are careless, he will get you pregnant. When a man gets a woman pregnant, he is showing the woman he loves her.

Wake up, young lady! Having a child by a man does not mean he will stay with the woman. What he may do is to tie you down and move on to another victim, so to speak. What you have, other women have. This is a wild man and if you have any sense at all, you will end the relationship with him immediately.

Pastor