Dear Pastor,

I am 19. My child's father has two other babymothers. His first babymother disrespects me all the time. He does nothing about it. They are still together. He gives her everything she needs for herself and the child. She does not work. I live close to her and see when he visits. She said I can't take her man.

His second babymother is a year younger than I am. She migrated before she had her child. He also gives her everything she wants. He said he wants to be with her because she is intelligent and she did not allow her child to get in the way of her education.

She has seven CXCs and she is in nursing school abroad. She works and studies so he supports her. He loves her.

Pastor, he is very brazen. When they argue and I am at his house, he calls her and makes up with her right in front of me. He doesn't hide. She doesn't allow me or his first babymother to bother her. He does not support me in any way. My child lives with him and I still have to buy everything. When I want to see my child, his father tells me to go and get a job. My child is two years old.

I don't have any subjects because I got pregnant around the time I was supposed to sit my CXCs and I was very stressed. He said I am worthless.

It so happened that one day, I found his babymother, who is studying abroad, on Facebook and messaged her. She told him everything I said to her. He was angry. He said I was the one who was destroying their relationship, and I should stop complaining to her. I admitted I was wrong.

He tells everybody we are not together. He tells them I only go to his house to visit my son.

I love this man, but he does not show me any love at all. He is only nice when he wants sex, and I always give him, no matter what. He disrespects me until he wants sex. I still give him. Pastor, what should I do?

R.S.

Dear R.S.,

I suggest you try to be level-headed and practical. You are wasting your time loving this man. He doesn't love you and has made it clear who he wants to be with. He is disrespectful to you, and though the child he fathered with you is living with him, you have to provide everything for him.

The man doesn't care about you, and if you are hoping he will change, you are wasting your time. I wonder why he is supporting his first child and the mother and the one who lives in the United States but not your child who is living with him.

This man is using you and you are making yourself available to him every time that he wants sex. Get real! Ask the Lord to give you the courage and the strength to say no to him. Try your very best to get a job and keep out of his way. He is a wicked man. Try your best also to go back to school.

Pastor