Dear Pastor,

I am 25 years old and my child's father is 30 years old. He cheated on me with my neighbour and got her pregnant, but she didn't give him the baby. She gave it to her boyfriend. I found a nude picture of her in my boyfriend's phone. I asked him what her picture was doing in his phone and he said that he doesn't know how it got there. I used to talk to her, but I stopped. Sometimes when my father came up from the country and brought ackee and ground provisions, I used to share it with her, but I don't anymore.

She said the child that she has is not my boyfriend's, but he knows that it is his child. I told him that if he cheats on me again I am going to leave him. He is a taxi driver, so he carries a lot of women in his car. He told me that I am too jealous and that I should not kill him because he has made a mistake. I have never wanted this woman's man, so why does she want my man?

F.L.

Dear F.L.,

You have declared that your neighbour became pregnant by your man. That is what you said. You have not said whether your man admitted doing so. The young woman is saying that what you have accused her of is not true. Your man, however, has said that he has made mistakes, but whether one of his mistakes was getting your neighbour pregnant is not clear to me.

You have broken friendship with her. Time would tell if the child is your boyfriend's. I believe that you are indeed a very jealous woman. On the other hand, I also believe that your boyfriend ought to be more careful. It is true that he will always have women around him because of the nature of his work, so make sure that you do not harass him. And please do not say unkind things about your neighbour.

Pastor