Life so funny sometimes because those who give the least tend to expect the most. Yesterday was Father's Day and mi know whole heap a di man dem did feel like a suck out bag juice because they were not acknowledged or dem neva 'get nutten!' It's almost as if their minimal contribution if any at all should be rewarded and because dat neva gwaan dem vex!

The sperm donors tend to want to make all kinds of demands on their seed because dem share the same DNA and think that they are entitled to receiving reward for things they didn't even provide. What a piece a outta ordaness! Rewards and gratitude are reserved for those men who embody being a father in every sense of the word. Those who have sacrificed, loved and provided for their children. Let me be clear anno only financial contribution mi a talk because money alone cyaa grow pickney, it is the emotional, psychological and spiritual bond that is shared between father and child that is everlasting.

Great expectations

Women need to stop complaining about dem baby fadda because a you choose him! Some woman have some great expectations from some man who never show one ounce a responsibility or interest in becoming a father.

Even worst if him did already have pickney weh him naa tek care of why you bother join di line and now when yuh a get bad mileage yuh want fi done him?! Memba fi done yourself too because some woman love see fire and go jump inna it!

There are those men who come in like a black widow spider and can fool woman til di baby born and then dem change fi di worst but by and large when some woman a look smaddy fi mate wid dem not analysing the man paternal characteristics and capabilities.

Dysfunctional children

As a matter of fact contrary to popular belief anno every man want a child! Some men can't even take proper care of themselves much more fi go care for another vulnerable human being! And if a man or woman for that matter does not want children it doesn't make them a homosexual! I heard that argument and had to set the person straight!

It's a choice whether one wants or chooses to have a child and really and truly when mi check the ratio some people who have, never have no business a have none! At the end of the day a di pickney dem suffer. It is highly likely that hurt and dysfunctional children will grow into those same kind of adults.

Some women are claiming to be single mothers when they are really not. If you and di man no deh again or live in the same house it does not stand to reason that you are all together a 'single mother'. There are many fathers who contribute significantly to the lives of their children though they are separated. Give the men their due reward when they are deserving of it. Nuff a dem no live a di yaad but dem still play an active role in the children's lives.

Pressure man

Some women too use the children as pawns and bargaining tools, as reward or punishment when they want the man to do something or when he does not do it. Some even just deprive the father and child from building a bond because she want back the man and him no want her. However women need to realise that when they deprive a child of a beautiful relationship with their father, especially if he's putting out all the effort to be a great dad, it's the child that is being short-changed. Try as best you can to not be vindictive and break a bond that should be strengthened and reinforced.

Ten story inna one unnu know seh a some woman pressure man fi tings and incite dem fi go thief?! No sah wah day yah mi a seh if a man give woman $1000 mi not even done mi statement good mi hear one red herring jump up "my man couldn't gi me $1000 Miss Kitty yuh mad!" Same time mi look pon her mi see seh she a one a dem who like mek demands and can't provide!

Mi tell her seh no badda hype because if her man slip her a gran right now she run go KFC go buy a big deal and buy a Digicel credit and feel good! If a man can only afford fi give a $1000 be grateful cause him neva haffi give none! She cyaa provide $1000 but yet a go 'small' up di man money!

The only way mi woulda ignarant fi di $1000 is if him have whole a money an jus gimmi dat because him mean and stingy! But sometimes great expectations lead to unrealistic realities so we haffi know weh we a do! Be grateful no matter how small and be wise enough fi cut if yuh see seh him a 'cut!'