Dear Pastor,

I heard about a woman who went to visit a man and when they started to work over things together in the bedroom, the man told her that he had a pig in the pen which she could take when she was leaving. When the woman was leaving, she was taking the pig with her and the man asked her why. she told him that while they were having sex he told her that she can take it. The man replied, "That was just sex talk."

G

Dear G,

This must be a joke but since as a counsellor I have to consider each letter seriously, I will make some comments.

Sex can cause people to say all sorts of nonsense. This woman should have known that the man would not have given his one pig to her. Whatever she was doing to him caused him to lose his senses and that was his way of saying that he was very satisfied with her performance.

"Have the pig, my dear." That was his way of saying that the woman was good in what she was doing to him. But when it was all over and the woman wanted the pig, he had come to his senses and refused to allow her to take it.

Therefore, I suggest that no one should listen to what his or her partner says during sex, for example, when a woman shouts out during sex, "Jesus, Jesus, you a kill me." But she makes no effort in pushing him off - he is not killing her. It is her way of saying, "I love what you are doing to me, give me more."

Pastor