Dear Pastor,

My brother got married to a young Christian woman. After the wedding, they came home and they were having sex for the first time. My room was next to theirs and I was awakened by some expletives. When I listened, she was cursing and in the morning she said that she did not say these things. So, my brother taped her and that is when she realised that she used lots of expletives each time they had sex.

They separated from each other one year after they were married because my brother could not stand the cursing of the expletives. They turned him off.

Sister

Dear Sister,

This young woman was unable to control herself. It is either the sex was sweet and enjoyable, or it was painful. You said that the couple separated after one year. That should not have caused a separation. They should have sought help from a family counsellor. It is not unusual for people to deny that they were talking nonsense or using expletives during sex. This woman's husband taped her and played it back to her and, by doing so, he shamed her.

Why couldn't they just laugh at the whole thing, sought help and remained together?

Pastor