Dear Pastor,

I hope these words will find you in good health. I am 21 and have a boyfriend who loves me 100 per cent. He takes care of me and my unborn child.

I met him when I was about six weeks pregnant. I had a one-night stand with a man from Florida, who got me pregnant and when he went back, he never contacted me. I cannot contact him because I don't know his number.

I met him at a bar, I had a little too much to drink and had sex with him. I only remember his first name. He took me home and told me he would see me again, but I don't know where to find him.

I went back to the bar. nobody knew who he was. They said that was the first time they were seeing him, but he told them he was from Florida.

My boyfriend and I work with the same company. He was always after me. One day he saw me crying and asked what was the problem. I told him that I was pregnant. He wanted to know why I was crying, I told him I don't know whether I should carry the pregnancy because I had a one-night stand with a man and didn't know where to find him.

He told me he cannot have children. He had been trying for a long time and could not get anybody pregnant, so he would take care of me and take care of the baby.

Pastor, I am fretting because I am of dark complexion. The man who had sex with me is of light complexion and is Indian-looking.

This guy who is friendly with me is of black complexion. I am worried because people may say that I gave him a 'jacket', and that wouldn't be true at all. Even at my workplace, people say they didn't know we were friends.

We are planning to get married after the baby is born. Pastor, am I doing the right thing? Why did this man not use the condom? My childhood sweetheart was on farm work when I became pregnant. He was surprised to see me pregnant when he came back. I cannot tell him the truth. He doesn't talk to me anymore.

R.D

Dear R.D.,

You are fortunate to have found a man who has agreed to accept you and the baby. He will take this child as his own. You were very careless. You met a man for the first time and went to bed with him that very night you didn't use any form of protection. You lost control of yourself.

This man did not want you to know where in Florida he lives. He is probably a married man who was just having a fling. You are worried now about what people could say about the man who has taken on the responsibility of taking care of your child. Whether he is black or yellow, he is a good man. Now that your childhood sweetheart is back, I hope that you won't abandon this man and go back to him if he wants to forgive and take you back.

he is angry and he is not talking to you but you can never know what will happen in the future. So, whether this child is of dark or light complexion, he is your child with an adopted father. when he or she comes of age, you will have a mighty big task to tell him/her who is his /her biological father.

In the meantime, prepare to welcome your child into the world. I wish you well.

Pastor