Sex is everywhere and almost everyone is doing it. Contrary to romantic comedies and your parents, there does not have to be an emotional connection between partners for them to enjoy the sexual encounter. The fact is: sex is a physical act and even though the emotional attachment does make it more important to the participants, it's not necessary for sex to feel really good. A 'booty call' is simply a phone call or message sent to someone requesting that they meet up specifically for sex. There are many persons who are happy to just satisfy the physical need for sex without the attachment that is usually expected. The conflict occurs when both parties are not on the same page.

Double Standard

We live in a world where women are encouraged to embrace their sexuality which is different from what it was in the past. Women were properties of their fathers until they got married and became their husbands' possession. Today, women decide who they are sexually without the usual restrictions that were placed on them in the past. Is this a good thing? Some critics will say it isn't because women are not as discriminating as they should be. "Virtuous women are hard to find" is a sentiment shared by many because of the presumed promiscuity of the modern woman. If we are to look at men in contrast, history has always accepted that a man must be allowed to "sow his wild oats". Men were never restricted as to the number of partners they should have even after marriage. As a matter of fact, it is considered a sign of virility if a man has more than one woman and he is complimented for his exploits. So are you a booty call?

Answer YES or NO to the following statements:

1. You only get calls to meet up at certain hours in the night.

2. You only see each other at your home.

3. You have never actually been on a date with each other.

4. Whenever you meet up, you have sex.

5. After the sex is over they are in a hurry to leave.

6. Conversations usually include or lead to sex.

7. Instead of asking about you he/she asks about your sexual body parts (Example: How's pinky? OR How's the nine inch?).

8. If you go for food, it's take out only.

9. It is usually not easy to get them on the phone, until they call you.

10. Whenever you see them in public they act like you are just friends.

If you can relate to at least seven of these statements, you are a booty call. If this is the type of arrangement that you want, that's great. However, if you want to be in a relationship with this person, you need to have a conversation with him/her. Remember that communication is essential to the success of every relationship - even a booty call one. Have fun and stay sexy!

Question

Dear Dr. Sexy,

I need your advice about squirting, I get stimulation by tongue and penis and it still don't happen. I am a bit frustrated. Do you think I am trying too hard to make it happen?

Blair, May Pen

Dear Blair,

While women have the body parts to make squirting happen, not all women are able to pull it off. Start with masturbating. Learn how to stimulate your g-spot and clitoris at the same time. The sensation will be very powerful but it will be worth it. You have to be really turned on and relaxed so take your time.

Good luck,

Dr Sexy-Ann

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