Dear Pastor

I am 23 and my girlfriend is 27. I am having a problem because she is always calling me a boy. I am short. She is tall. I don't look my age. When I told her to remember I am a big man she tells me the only thing that is big is what I carry in my pants.

My girlfriend does not have children. I don't want to have a child while unmarried. I am not ready to get married as yet. She has finished university but I am still there. She helps me with my assignments. If I don't understand something she calls me a dunce.

Pastor, I believe I should leave her, but I owe her some money and don't have it to give back to her. Sometimes when I am around her friends, she tries to belittle me. She rubs my head and calls me a boy. Sometimes I turn off my phone and she hunts me down. Twice she called me to curse bad words. I don't like where this relationship is going. My mind is changing. She has a car but she does not want me to drive it. The only way I can use the car is if she is going with me to whereever I want to go.

Another problem I have is that I am a Sunday worshipper and she is Sabbath. She wants me to join her church but I am not interested.

S.C.

Dear S.C.

I think you have said enough for me to say you need to end this relationship. She is arrogant and unwise. She does not have any respect for you. A wise woman would not try to embarrass her man in any way at all. She ought to know some short men are very sensitive, especially when one talks about their statue. She has embarrassed you many times. Don't let her continue to do so.

You owe her some money. Give her a promissory note that you pay her after you have left university and found a job. Don't let a few dollars let you continue hanging around a woman who, evidently, does not respect you.

Pastor