Dear Pastor,

I am living with a man. Every day he dresses up and goes on the road. He didn't tell me the name of the place he was working. Every morning he would make his own breakfast before he leaves. I don't have to get up to do that for him. He is always neatly dressed. When I asked him where he worked he told me he would take me there one day and introduce me to the boss.

Some nights he comes home late, he doesn't want to eat and is always smelling fresh.

I was going through his phone while he was talking to the neighbour, and saw pictures of women. some of them were naked.

Would you believe this man works at a brothel? When I found out where he works and I told him, he told me I was too nosy and the job he was doing is better than stealing.

Pastor, this man works at the brothel just like how girls work and expect men to come to them. He works there to take care of female clients. I told him that he should leave that place and get a job. He said his job and many of the women wouldn't want him to leave. He is not having affairs with them. He is only there to have sex with them and they leave. I don't see myself staying with this type of man. He has sex with women two or three times for the day, he said.

Do you think that this man will have any use when he gets over 40 years old? Right now he is thirty. I am 19.

B.U.

Dear B.U.,

You did not say how much this man makes per day. Perhaps you don't know. He leaves in the morning and sometimes he gets home late at nights. My understanding is that there are some men who are engaged in this type of work, and they work day and night. Their female clients are mostly married women whose husbands are very busy and fail to meet the sexual desires of their wives.

You might be surprised to hear that some women pay big money for men to have sex with them. It is not only men who seek girls and pay them for sex, women do the same thing. Now that you know the type of man that you have, you probably should move on because it's not everyone who would insist that he uses a condom. some of them might demand oral sex from him, so this man could be exposed to STDs which he would likely pass to you. So, though he brings money home, he may also bring diseases.

Pastor