Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column and love to listen to your programme but, pastor, I need your help. I am 21. I am not a Christian anymore but still believe in God. I am not working, but I am doing some farming.

Pastor, I have been with my boyfriend for more than 6 years but he has changed. I believe he has someone else. He started hiding his phone and texting a lot but that isn't my biggest problem. I saw and heard of him being with this girl. When I asked him about her, he said that she was a friend of his mother. She called me once and told me a lot of things about my boyfriend, how she was pregnant for him. I went crazy when I heard, pastor.

I am staying with him. One day when he left for work, I was cleaning up and saw pictures of the same girl hidden in his room. I took them and tore them up. I texted and called her and asked her to leave him alone because she is older than he is. I don't know what else to do, pastor. I feel like leaving him but a part of me is saying no.

Please give me your advice, and please, pray for me.

C.B

Dear C.B.,

Your attitude towards the girl you suspect is your boyfriend's girlfriend will not bring an end to the relationship they are having. Indeed, it might strengthen it. Both of you are fighting for the same man. You don't have more rights to this man. You might be living with him but that doesn't mean much, if anything, at all. You are not engaged to him and he has not assured you that he will marry you. What you should do is not call the woman and curse her, but hold your corner, so to speak.

When this man is at home, you should deal with him. You have no right to call the woman and curse her, because you do not know what this man has been telling her.

He might be assuring her that he will marry her. When he is with you, he might tell you something else. Remember, most men are liars. That is a fact.

You say this woman is older than your

so-called boyfriend. That does not mean anything. Some young men love older women. Spend your time on farming and leave the other woman alone.

Pastor