I am currently in my 33rd year and looking at my life I realise that I have to embrace my inner old self.

I work a lot in entertainment so I have my finger on the pulse of what is going on especially with the young, hot, hip people. From fashion to music to how I relate to people, I realise my tastes are changing.

Now, before I continue, let me declare that I am still very young and I am still a savvy independent 21st century woman. So with the disclaimer out of the way, I just have to admit: It's official I am getting old. There are some things that I am just saddened by and I feel a little pit for the generation after me because it seems they might be getting obsolete:

Relationships:

Men don't make the effort anymore - I remember when I used to be approached my men who will invite me out, or give me a compliment. Now, men lean up on a car, point at it and look annoyed if I don't respond. Or what I experience a lot are men who tell me straight up that they just want to have some sexy time with me to see if I know what I'm talking about.

Forget about love letters - With smartphones changing the way we communicate, it killed love letters. I still have letter from high school that I read ever so often and smile.

There was something special about getting a letter from an admirer that expresses how that person feels.

Money trumps everything - Every time I point out a deal-breaker someone points out that I should be more flexible because the person might have money. It's as if having money excuses everything else.

Romance? - Whenever I talk about romance I get very interesting reactions. From comments like "man nah try fi impress nuh ooman" to "afta a nuh di movies dis?" The attitude towards romance is just depressing.

Music/Parties:

Where are the clever lyrics? - "Every little thing that I've been searching for, girl I see it in you, you're my dream come true" Freddie McGregor in his smash hit I See It In You makes me just blush. But if we were to compare the lyrics from some newer artistes, we don't have much to work with.

Dancing - I am just so tired for being at a party dancing to my favourite song and suddenly feel a penis pressed up against my butt cheek. When I turn around to see the face of the offender, he has a look that says "what's your problem?" So basically, I should expect to be asked my permission before I am assaulted by a random penis at a party.

Make Love/Sex/War - Dancehall has always been very aggressive with how sex is described. From "Cock it up" to "Dung inna yuh troat" it all sounds like something that should be recovered from instead of enjoyed.

No I understand that I am not the target market for some of these things, but it feels like the things I like are disappearing. I find myself saying things the adults in my life as a child used to say to me, like "You call that music?" At the risk of sounding like a serious old nag, I do love dancehall - raw lyrics and all - I just miss the creativity. Ultimately, the world is changing and like generations before me, we have to adjust. There are still lots of great, sexy fun experiences to be had so go and get your freak on!

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Dr Sexy-Ann.

Question

Dear Dr Sexy,

I'd love to hear your view on anal sex. My partner loves it and doesn't like using condoms and I'm afraid of infections. He likes to be in and out of both holes which I prefer vaginal intercourse first then anal after or if he wants anal first we can bring it to the shower after. Help please.

Ann, Mandeville

Dear Ann,

I do not recommend that you have unprotected anal sex and you should NEVER switch from anus to vagina. You have to remember that the vagina is a self-cleaning organ and it needs to have a specific environment to function properly. This will be compromised if the bacteria from the anus are introduced to the vagina. You husband should respect that his health can also be affected by unprotected anal sex as well. Good luck and stay sexy.