Dear Pastor,

I am writing to tell you about a situation that I am in. I have been dating this guy since I was in the 10th grade. He has a girlfriend that he loves very much. I am now in grade eleven and he took my virginity. Now he is treating me like a dog. I love him very much. Sometimes he shows me a good face when he wants me to make love to him, but I really do love him.

What must I do, please?

S.

Dear S.,

You are fighting to hold this man. When both of you became friends, you knew that he had another girlfriend but you kept the relationship between the both of you going. And you allowed him to have sex with you and take your virginity. You are admitting that the only time he is nice to you is when he wants to have sex. I know that regardless of what I say you are going to continue with this guy, because you believe that you are in love with him.

I am putting it to you that what this guy, needs from you is just sex and that is why, at times, he treats you as a dog and not a thoroughbred (pedigree). He considers you a mongrel and that is very bad. When you have come to your senses and are tired of his treatment you will end the relationship with him. And if you are not careful, by that time you will be pregnant, so don't wait until that happens. Look at the past and consider it a big mistake. end the relationship with him now and concentrate on your lessons.

Pastor