Dear Pastor,

I am writing you this letter and I want to say, first of all, to keep up your good work. I read the Star everyday just because of your column. I am a nice guy. That's what the girls tell me, but after they get to know me they break up with me. My friends told me that nice guys finish last. I keep myself clean and I am very neat in my dressing but I can't dance very well, so I am not a partygoer and the girls I meet are party lovers. I am against any girl who likes to wear shorts on the road and any clothes that would show some of her cleavage.

I was going on a date with a girl and when I went with the taxi to pick her up and I saw her, I told the taxi driver to drive off. She had on a skirt that was too short. The taxi man told me he respected me for that. When I was in the car, I told the taxi to stop and I texted her and told her why I could not pick her up. She called me and cursed me, using expletives.

At the moment, I am dating a girl who says she is a Christian. I have told her what I like and what I don't like, but she is resisting the rules. I told her that a man has a right to say what he wants from a woman. Am I wrong, pastor?

B.B.

Dear B.B.,

It seems to me that you would have to make the kind of woman that you want. Some folks may say that you were correct to drive off and not take the young woman on a date. Whether you know it or not, that was a big insult and that is not a good way to treat a young woman in the presence of a taxi driver, who was a stranger. You could have gone with her and quietly tell her that you are disappointed in the way she dressed. Or you could have got out of the taxi and told her that you did not like the way she was dressed and ask her to go and change into something else. But to drive off and then text her was not the correct thing to do.

You are going to have a very difficult time finding an intelligent girl. Even the Christian girl you are dating at present will not stick around with you if you are insisting that she follows rules that you have made up. You are a man, but that does not give you the right to push around women. So I am asking you, please, to change your attitude. You may not like a girl wearing shorts or mini-skirts in public, but you must never do anything to embarrass women.

Pastor