I am having sex with an old lady

Dear Pastor,

I am a young man and I am in love with an old woman. She does everything for me. I am learning a trade and she told me that I didn't have to go home after work in the evenings, so I go to stay with her. The first time I went to stay with her, she had on a pair of shorts and a top and she told me to go to the bathroom and that she was going to come and bathe me because I smelled bad.

I didn't want to go, but she insisted that I go and take off my clothes, and she told me that I didn't have anything that she couldn't see because when her boys were big men, she used to still bathe them. So I went and took off my clothes and I went under the shower and pulled the curtain. She came in and took control. It was the first time I was bathing in warm water. Pastor, she scrubbed me down.

I am not circumcised, so she turned over my penis and washed it. I felt so good. She asked me if my mother had ever bathed me this way, and I told her no. She wrapped me in a large towel and took me into her room. After that she dried me off and she powdered me and used her deodorant on me. Pastor, when she put her fingers on my crotch, I had an erection. She did not say a word. She gave me a a pair of shorts to sleep in and a t-shirt.

She gave me oxtail for dinner, and after that, we sat down and watched television. I felt very happy and thankful. I called my mother and told her that I was all right.

In the morning, I went to work, and after work, I went home and picked up some clothes and went back to the lady. I didn't wait on her. I went into the bathroom and had my shower. She gave me my dinner and she told me that she was tired, so she went to bed. That went on for a whole week.

On the Saturday, I went to the market with her. I didn't have to go to work on the Saturday. I helped her in the kitchen. She cooked soup. She told me that on Sunday, she had to go to church, but I couldn't go because she did not want the church people to see me because they knew I was not her grandson.

Pastor, in the evening, this lady came into the bathroom and bathed me again. When she was finished, she wanted me to massage her. I was scared because I had never done that, but she told me what to do. I don't have to go into the details, pastor, but I had sex with her and I didn't have a condom. When I asked her about that, she said I couldn't get her pregnant because she was too old. I was scared, but I had sex with her, and before daybreak, she wanted it again.

When her daughter was coming to Jamaica, I had to leave and go to my parents' home. Her daughter spent a whole month and then she left. She called me every day. My mother asked me if I had sex with this woman and I told my mother no. This woman has taken over my life.

When I was at home, I had to share a room and a bed. When I am with her, I have everything for my comfort, but I don't want to continue because she is an old woman and I would like to have a young girl and have children. And I don't want to lie to my mother because she warned me not to get involved with her.

Whenever I want money, she gives it to me and I give some to my mother.

T.G.

Dear T.G.,

This woman is very clever, but she is a bad grandma. She knew exactly what to do to woo you. She gave you the type of treatment that you were not accustomed to and she got you finally to do what she wanted you to do.

I am not condemning you, young man. It's going to be very difficult to leave her because you have got accustomed to good treatment and money and a very comfortable house in which to live. And I am sure that your mother believes that this woman is just a kind-hearted and loving woman, but she is a devil.

You are going to have to tell your mother something about this woman. You can begin by telling her that you are returning home. She is going to want to know why. you may say that you are not very comfortable living there anymore. You would not be lying. Your mother should be smart enough to know that this woman was having fireworks with you. If you were to tell your mother that you have been going to bed with this woman and how it happened, she may call the woman and curse her.

Get out from this woman's house, young man! get out!

Pastor