Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I am 26 years old, but I did something that is on my mind. I have a girlfriend and she has a sister who is older. Both of them sleep together. They live at home with their parents. I went to visit my girlfriend. I am accepted by the family, so the parents are comfortable with having me there. I can go there anytime.

One evening, I went to the house and my girlfriend was not home. She was trying to call me but I forgot my phone at work. She told me that I could wait for her and that I should not leave. I felt tired and her sister told me that I could go on the bed and lie down, so I did. To my surprise, her sister came in the room while I was sleeping and woke me up and asked me if I wanted something to eat, and I said yes.

When I went out to the table she sat with me and pushed her hand under the table and was feeling my legs. Her hands went right up to my private part and I asked her why she was doing that. She said she wanted to know if I had anything in my pants. I couldn't concentrate on the food for a while. I started to have an erection, then she stopped and ran away and laughed at me.

When I was finished eating, I asked her if she would like to see what I had. She said no and then she said yes, so I showed it to her. And then I hugged her and in fifteen minutes or less we were having sex. And just as we had finished, my girlfriend came home and she said to me, "What's going on, how you look guilty as if you were doing something?"

I am in big trouble because her sister told me that she has missed her period and she believes that she could be pregnant. If she is pregnant, I wouldn't know what to do with myself. She is not even working but my girlfriend works at a bank and attending university part-time. I am so worried that I am trembling.

R.N.

Dear R.N.,

Why did you have to yield to temptation and have sex with your girlfriend's sister? Although you are not yet married, this girl is your sister-in-law.

My understanding is that girls fool around with men all the time by playing with their legs and feel them up to find out whether they are big or small. And when this girl did that to you, you should have known that she was more than naughty. She was not making a joke. She was not only feeling your size, she was testing your mettle to see if you would be able to resist her, and you fell right into her trap. That is a bad sister.

Do you mean you are so weak that you couldn't walk, away at that time from trouble when you knew that you are having an intimate relationship with this girl's sister? And why did you have to take out your penis and show the girl? It seems to me that if she is really pregnant now you are going to have to find a big ant nest and poke your head in it, because what both of you did was wilful and disgraceful. And that act can destroy family life.

Pastor