I have been living with my boyfriend for three years. I have two children, but he is not their father. I regret the day I met this man.

Whenever we have an argument, he uses a lot of profanity, even the devil would be ashamed of him. He does so in the presence of the children. He is very raw and out of order. He describes a woman's vagina by using the 'P' word and he calls a man penis by using the 'C' word.

Now, my little son when talking, has the same style. He learnt to talk that way from my boyfriend. This man calls me stink all the time so the little boy calls his sister stink, too. I am not working and I have to be depending on him for everything.

Whenever I say I can't take it, he curses me and tells me that I can leave his house because my vagina is too big and the enjoyment is gone out of it.

Please give me your advice.

C.D.

Dear C.D.,

I suggest that you try and find a relative who has accommodation and is willing to take you in while you search for a job. You should discontinue living with this man. He is a bad influence on the children and he does not care about his relationship with you. Don't just say that you want to leave, turn your words into actions and leave.

Pastor