My girlfriend cheated for money

Dear Pastor,

I am 21 years old and I have a girlfriend who is 17. She lives with her parents, but I am supporting her because they are very poor and I promised them that I would look after her. I am sending her to do fashion designing. Every two weeks, I give her money, and sometimes a whole month goes by and I don't touch her.

I am not living near to her these days because of my job and I found out that she is not behaving herself. I asked her about it and she denied it. One day, I grabbed her phone and looked into it and saw 'sexy' text messages. I even saw where she thanked a guy for the nice sex that they had.

Pastor, I can't believe that this is the girl I love and I am spending money on is doing all these things! I told her mother that I am going to leave her and about what I saw in her phone.

My girlfriend admitted to me that she had sex with another guy but that she doesn't like him. He offered her a lot of money, so she did it and took the money, but she said she wouldn't do it again.

I am so confused. I can't trust her again. Should I stay with her? I thought she would have been my wife, but now, I don't know.

H.I.

Dear H.I.,

What amount of money is this young girl calling a lot? How much money is that? Why does she need a lot of money when you are trying to support her? She has let you down and has let down herself. I hate to think of her as a bad girl. Perhaps she is just naive.

I suggest that you give her another chance. Continue to help her as much as you can, but if she repeats what she has done or continues to have relations with other men, end the relationship with her. Tell her parents exactly what I have suggested. By the way, make sure she goes to see a doctor because you do not know whether this girl has picked up any types of sexually transmitted infections.

Pastor