Dear Pastor,

I am nineteen years old and in Kingston and working as a helper. The couple that I am working for are very nice and they treat me very well. They have a son who is married but he comes to see his mother very often. From the first day he saw me, he told me that his spirit took a liking to me. I told him that I have my boyfriend in the country and he has his wife so nothing could happen. He laughed and went away. Every night he would call me on my cell phone when he knew that I was alone in my room and asked me if I was alright.

One night, he asked me what I was wearing and I told him I was in my night clothes. He asked me what I was wearing underneath, but I did not tell him. He wanted to know if it was a full panty or a bikini. He said he was feeling horny and he couldn't do anything with his wife because she was not feeling well and was sleeping. He tried to get me to do phone sex with him, but I told him to take a shower and go to bed because I was not into phone sex. He told me nothing was wrong with it.

He never stopped bothering me about how I look good and I shouldn't be working as a helper. Also, he would get me another job, but I shouldn't tell his parents. I was not interested because I did not have anywhere to stay; because of the work I am doing, I can stay here.

One evening he was here with his folks. His father turned into bed and he was there with his mother and then he left. Before he left, he texted me saying that he would come back later that night to see me. He came back, but he parked his car further down the road and knocked on my window and asked me to open for him. I didn't want to do it but I did. He came in and I told him I was afraid because I didn't want to lose my job. He said the only way I would lose my job is if I reported him.

Pastor, I had sex with him. He didn't use a condom so I fretted for the entire month until I saw my period. About a week or so after, he called me again and told me he was coming to see me. This time I did not open my door and I had the radio turned up high. he knocked repeatedly and then he left. I decided to leave the job because I couldn't take his behaviour and I was cheating on my boyfriend.

I told his parents that I was going and they decided to raise my pay because they told me I am a good worker. I told them that they didn't have to raise my pay, but I don't like where I am sleeping, it is not safe. They told me I could leave my things in that room and sleep in another room and I agreed. Now their son is threatening me and telling me that if I don't have sex with him again he is going to tell my boyfriend that I was cheating on him in Kingston, but that is a lie.

Please tell me what to do.

M.E.

Dear M.E.,

You are in a dilemma because if you were to tell this man's parents what he has been doing, he will deny it. And he might also say that it is you who is showing interest in him, and it is likely that they will believe him. You made a mistake when you opened the door for him that night when he knocked on your window. You are fortunate that he did not get you pregnant. He is not a wise man. He is very careless and wicked. He didn't know you and he had unprotected sex with you. If you were not a clean girl he would have taken something to his wife.

Now that your employers have changed up your sleeping arrangements, you need not give up your job. If he continues to harass you and to threaten that he will tell your boyfriend that you are having other men, you should let him know that you are prepared to tell his wife that he was having an affair with you.

Pastor