Keep up the good work. I am writing because I am heartbroken. I have been married for more than three years. About two and a half years ago, my mom shared with me that a lady told her she had gone out with my husband.

I was in the United States and he was in Jamaica. I asked him many times about this affair. He told me it wasn't true. I did not believe him. I did several investigations to find out the truth, but, to no avail. Because I didn't have any proof, I continued with the relationship.

Two days ago, we were in bed and he told me he wanted to talk about something he did that was bothering him. He said even though he prayed for forgiveness, he wanted to get it off his conscience. I forced him to tell me. He said he had sex with the girl he told me he didn't have an affair with.

Pastor, he said the girl came on to him one night and he was weak. He said, in the middle of the act, he realised what he was doing and stopped. He said he never did it again. He swore on his life and begged me to forgive him.

Ever since he confessed, I don't feel the same way about him. I love this man and I was faithful. He did this to me! I had asked him, many times, about this and he denied it. He said he denied it because he didn't want me to leave him. Honestly, I am considering leaving him, regardless of him being a wonderful husband. He is loving and everything. He pays all the bills and gives me everything I want. We also have a seven-month-old child, but I am so hurt. I don't think I can get over this. I trusted this man and he betrayed our marriage. I am asking you for your advice.

What should I do? I am leaning towards the door. If I can't trust him, this can't work, and I don't think I can forgive him for what he did, especially this early in our marriage.

S.L.

Dear S.L.,

Honestly, I think you should stay with your husband if you believe he has ended the affair with the woman. It is evident that she wants him and wanted you to know she was having an affair with him. That is why she told your mother.

She knew your mother would have told you, and you might want to leave him, after which she would take over.

Though he denied the affair for a long time, he finally came clean. If you believe him, both of you should make an appointment and go and see a family counsellor.

Evidently he is a good, family man, who takes care of all his bills etc. He just made a mistake.

Having said the above, I don't believe he has spoken the whole truth. He wanted to have sex with the young woman, and the young woman wanted to have sex with him. This nonsense that she came on to him is his way of trying to convince you of his innocence. I don't believe that is a true account of what happened.

Pastor