Dear Pastor,

I am 21. Do you think it is wise for me to start having sex with a guy before I meet his family? I have been dating a guy for two months now and I am anxious to have sex with him, but I have not met his parents or other relatives as yet. However, he already knows my family. He visits my house occassionally.

Please give me your feedback. I will be reading the WEEKENDStar to see your answer.

S.K

Dear S.K.,

This relationship is very new. It is only two months old. You don't know this man very well, neither does he know you very well. He visits your home, but he has never invited you to meet his family.

From the tone of your letter, he seems to be living with his parents. You believe the relationship is serious, so you are quite willing to have sex with him, but you are not sure of him.

You believe he may be is hiding something, and if he was serious about the relationship and wanted it to be long-term, he would have introduced you to his parents. Only then you would have felt free to have sex with him.

Please understand that any man can introduce a girl to his relatives, but an introduction does not always mean the relationship has a future.

I do not mean to imply that he shouldn't introduce you to his parents. I am just saying that would not be a guarantee that he'd marry you.

If you are determined to have sex with this man, no one can stop you. You are an adult. However, two months is too soon, and it will give the man the impression that you are easy.

Pastor