Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I am 28 and my girlfriend is 22. We have been together for 13 months. I live alone, but she lives with her parents.

Although I give her $5000 weekly, whenever she comes and washes my clothes, she charges me $3,000. If she cleans the house, I have to pay her another $3,000. She doesn't charge me to cook, maybe that is because she eats from what she cooks. She charges for everything she does. Her name is in my account and she has an account for herself, but she doesn't allow me to see what amount in her account.

My friends told me to leave her, but I love her and she is OK in all other areas. She is pretty and tidy, etc. I don't want to leave her, yet I am scared because I told her to move in with me. She will be doing so for the New Year.

Could tell me what you think of our relationship?

T.W

Dear T.W.,

You must be doing well to be giving your girlfriend between $8,000 to $11,000 a week.

Evidently, she has a very healthy bank account which she refuses to allow you to see. This young woman is probably with you because of what she can get and you have made a mistake by inviting her to live with you.

You talk as a simple man. You are not married to this woman. You have to pay her for everything that she does for you. She has refused to add your name to her account, and yet you have her name on yours. Perhaps if you tell your mother what you have done she would say, "Boy, you don't have common sense?" Your father would say, "Is idiot thing that."

If this is what you call love, then love is indeed blind, and someone needs to lead you. A family counsellor would help to lead you out of the way in which you have found yourself.

Pastor