Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem deciding on my relationship with my ex-boyfriend. Both of us are Christians. We started dating again earlier this month. The problem is, he had a girlfriend which he said he broke up with because they couldn't get along.

Early in August, she lost a child for him. Now, on their last break-up, she asked him to have sex with her for the last time, so he had sex with her. They had unprotected sex and he came inside her. He said he wants to settle with me but if she is pregnant she'd have to carry the baby.

I really don't know what to do, could you please help me?

Confused

Dear Confused,

I want you to know that your boyfriend is not a good man. Both of you were going together and you broke up. Fine. Then he had a relationship going with who is now his former girlfriend. I don't believe she is his former girlfriend because, from what you have written, they are still close. Her request to have sex with him for the last time is not believable, but let us say that she asked. Why did he have unprotected sex?

Your boyfriend is lying. He is trying to butter you up so he can prepare you for other lies. The next time he talks to you, he may tell you that the girl is pregnant. I can't encourage you to continue in this relationship. If you continue, you would be doing so to your own peril. Leave him, and do so immediately.

Pastor