Dear Pastor,

I am with a man but he is married. He is still living with his wife and we agreed that he should not leave her. They have children together but they are not having sex. I am his girlfriend and another girl is his girlfriend, too, so there are two of us outside. He said that when he is in bed with his wife his penis does not stand up but whenever he is with anyone of us, he doesn't have a problem getting an erection. Why is that so?

Girlfriend

Dear Girlfriend,

I believe that this is a mind thing. Nothing is physically wrong with this man, but he finds younger girls much more attractive and they turn him on. Therefore, it is not difficult to have and maintain an erection.

And by the way, nothing is wrong with this man's wife, so don't think you have anything over her. The other girl and you are playing around with this man because of his money, but one of these days he won't be able to have sex with either of you or to give you any money.

Pastor