When you start a new relationship, there are a lot of things to consider. One of the most important decisions is figuring out how soon to start getting intimate with each other.

There are some persons who feel that if sex is introduced too quickly, it will negatively affect the relationship because it's important to get to know the person first. Of course, this can be challenged by couples who say that getting the sex out of the way early can give them the chance to focus on the other things in their relationship.

Then there are the ones who decide to keep the sex out of their relationship until they get married. Whatever you choose to do, here are some things to think about when deciding when to start adding the sex to your new relationship:

Are you ready?

This is a question that only you can answer, and the answer must be yes. It's easy to succumb to the pressure if your partner has already expressed an interest.

What will it mean?

If you want to be in a long-term relationship, then you should have the conversation with your partner. This is a great way to ensure you are both on the same page.

Do it for you

The only reason you should have sex with a new partner is because you want to. You must be completely secure in your decision so if the relationship goes sour, you will be secure in knowing it was your choice.

Make sure the chemistry is there

If you are going to have sex with someone new, then chemistry is very important. The right chemistry can make the overall experience even more stimulating. Every touch is more intense and every kiss is more meaningful with the right chemistry.

Whatever you decide to do, getting sexual is a big step for most persons pursuing a new relationship. It might seem uncomfortable, but it is important to talk about your interests before you get naked. Another uncomfortable topic is safe sex. But it must be had. You and your partner should be clear about both your status and be open to getting tested together.

Whether we like it or not, HIV/AIDS and STDs are real and you must protect yourself; the best way to do so is to be open with your partner. Once you get that out of the way, you can get to the sexy fun. Enjoy!

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