Dear Pastor,

Please accept greetings in the mighty name of Jesus. I have a brother who is always getting into trouble with other men over their women. Men are always threatening him to leave their women alone. My brother likes the challenge of taking away other men's women, whether they are married or single and he does not like to work. Whenever he gets a job he does not keep it for long. Women support him. He is 27 years old.

Right now he has two women, one married and the other single. The married woman bought him a car. He told me that she loaned him the money to buy the car and for him to use it as a taxi. Another time he told me that she told him he should not pay her back but he should pick her up on Saturdays and take her to the market and do errands for her. I told him that he should keep away from this woman because she is married but he will not listen.

His other girlfriend called the man and told her that my brother was having an affair with his wife, and the man set a trap for my brother that could have caused him to lose his life. After she told the man that my brother was having an affair with his wife, she told my brother what she did. The man threatened him, and for days nobody knew where my brother was. But, Pastor, he and this woman are still together and she told him that if he is going to leave her he would have to give her back all the money she gave him to buy the car. And he said he cannot give up the car because he doesn't want to take bus again.

Now, this woman is an Indian woman. Something is wrong with my brother. He can't be satisfied and his women know about each other.

O.T

Dear O.T.,

If your brother loves his life he has to learn how to control himself. First of all, he should end the relationship with this married woman, sell the car and return the money that she gave him or make arrangements to repay her in instalments.

This idea of living on women and being supported by them may send him to his grave prematurely. His girlfriend who is single is jealous and was hurting. When he should be with her as a single woman he was spending his time with this married woman. And she was determined to put an end to it, and reporting him to the woman's husband was the best way she believed she should do so. She could have cost him his life.

Please appeal to your brother to end his wild living and settle down with one woman.

Pastor