I am 20 years old and I have a child by a 50-year-old man. We don't live together. We met when I was 19 years old. I kept this relationship away from my mom and family. I love this man so much. I eventually found out that he was cheating on me. I always searched his phone and I saw this girl texting him asking him for sex and other things. I asked him why she continued to text him and he would always say that she was not his girlfriend.

His older children don't like me, but an intelligent man shouldn't let his children tell him with whom he should have a relationship. He takes care of me and his son, but I feel insecure. He said he loves me, but I just can't feel it.

What should I do?

J.M

Dear J.M.,

Are you trying to say that your relatives are now aware of the relationship you are having with this man? It appears that way to me. This man has a relationship going with the girl who asked him for sex, but to keep you quiet, he is hiding the fact from you. He has not given you any assurance that you are the only one in his life, and even if he were to tell you that, common sense should contradict what he says.

I wish I could tell you that this relationship has a future. I don't see it. What I would rather encourage you to do is to try and carve out your own future by going back to school, and always keep in mind that if you have unprotected sex with this man, he is likely to get you pregnant again.

Pastor