Dear Pastor,

I need your advice. I have been in a long-distance relationship for four years. My boyfriend is living abroad. He sends money for me to pay my rent. I am 20. He also helps me to pay my school fees. Anything I ask him for, he would send it to me. I am working in a store. I did not receive any money from my boyfriend for three months. The second month when my rent was due, he told me he had lost his job. When the third month was coming around, the landlord asked me for his money. I told him to hold on. I called my boyfriend and he said I should wait.

I did not know what to do, so I had sex for money with a taxi driver, who used to take me home at nights. I got pregnant. Since that time, my boyfriend sent me money to pay half the amount I owed my landlord. I don't know what to do. The taxi guy is living with his girlfriend and said I should not call his name. Now I am on my own.

Pastor, please tell me what to do.

T.S

Dear T.S.,

I suggest you have your baby. If you know you are not able to support this child and your relatives are not able to help you, you may consider giving it up for adoption. The man responsible for getting you pregnant has already told you not to call his name, meaning he is not going to accept paternity.

Pastor