Dear Pastor,

I am in a relationship for four years and it has been four years of hell. I have one child with this man, and he doesn't want me to go anywhere. He doesn't even want me to talk to any other man. If my brothers call and I am on the phone with them, he tells me to come off the phone because I am talking too long. I have a brother who lives in America and he came to Jamaica and came to visit me. I told my boyfriend that he was coming to see me. When my boyfriend came home and saw him he was very cold towards him and when I went into the kitchen he came in there and said he will have to see my brother's birth certificate to believe that he is my brother.

I asked him if I would be so stupid to bring a man to his house. I told my brother what he said and I begged him not to say anything to him. My brother hates him and calls him a fool. Because of his attitude none of my relatives want to come here. I have never cheated on this man. He provides food and shelter, but that is all I get from him. I want to leave him, I cannot continue to live this way. I am only 30 years old. He is 42 years old but you would believe that he is 60 by the way he behaves. I can do without the little money that he is giving to me. Life for me is miserable.

G.B

Dear G.B

Men who don't trust their women without a cause may drive them to cheat. These men are insecure, demanding and jealous. Their women can never be happy. Some of them may have had unfortunate experiences and they carry these experiences into their present relationships, and that is why these men say that they don't trust any woman. Some men know that they are not giving their women enough money, so when they see these women talking to other men, they surmise right away that these women are talking to them because the men are giving them more money.

I am going to suggest that you move on, because this relationship is not going anywhere. It is not enjoyable. This man does not trust you. He will have to probably go and make a woman for himself and that is not possible. He will go to his grave doubting you. So make sure that he will take care of his child and move on.

Pastor.