Dear Pastor,

I am 20 and dating a married man. I love him and know he loves me too. He is loving and caring. He makes sure I am OK, in every way you can think of. I know he is married and it is wrong to have a relationship with a married man, but I have never felt this way about anyone before.

I want to have a baby for him. We are planning on how to handle the situation, but I don't want to mess up his marriage. I really need the help, but he is married so my baby is always going to be out of the picture.

I really love him and can't leave him alone. I don't know if am addicted to him, or what, but I know the feeling is a hundred percent real. I know there are other girls out there, who are going through the same type of situation, so I'd like them to hear your response too.

N.S

Dear N.S.,

You are aware the man is married. He is not tying you down with chain or rope. You are free to be in this relationship, or not . You have declared you love him and will not leave him. You want to have a baby with this man because you foolishly believe having a child with him could tie him to you but that's not necessarily true, my dear. Children don't tie a man to a woman, so if you, decide to allow this man to get you pregnant, be warned, he can walk away from you, at anytime, and may, or may not, support this child.

What I would urge you to do is to try get an education. I don't doubt you love this man, but it is unlikely he would give up his family life for you. If you truly love him, as you say, you wouldn't want to destroy his marriage. Be grateful for what he has been able to do for you, financially, but reason with him and, if he cares about you at all, he will tell you he enjoys being with you, the sex is good but he wants to stay with his wife, so you should move on.

If he wants to tie your legs, and say you shouldn't leave him, he doesn't mean you any good.

I suggest you end the relationship with this married man. Don't be a homewrecker. Focus on your life and education. Work towards a bright future. I wish you well.

Pastor