Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column and I have found it humorous and interesting. My husband doesn't like you very much. Whenever he talks I keep quiet because I see him reading your column every week. He said you put thoughts in the head of women about how they should deal with their men. But, pastor, I love you. You are the best. Sometimes when I read the column and the letters people write to you, and then I read your response, I say "yes".

My husband is not a Jamaican. In his country women are seen but not heard. When he met me I was very obedient to him, as my husband. After we got married he wanted to control me and my money. Whenever I went out he would call me a hundred times to find out why I am not home. I couldn't even talk to the men who are my neighbours in the complex. He accused me of having a relationship with all of them.

One day he threatened to slap me up and I decided that I won't allow him. I told him that I will cut out his (no, pastor, I can't tell you that but I know you understand). When I told him that, he left the house and did not come back for days. I packed up his clothes and kept them in the living room waiting for him to pick them up. Then he called me and told me that he was coming home with a friend to talk to me. When his friend heard the whole story he told him to apologise to me. And so we started living together again.

Pastor, this man was living in my house for free before we got married. And as soon as we got married he wanted me to put his name on my house title. He had a 15-year-old daughter when we got married and I have a 15-year-old son. Why should I put his name on my title? Everything I own is for my son.

My husband and I don't have children and I don't want any from him. I am warning all women to be careful because some of these men, they are only with you for what they can get. My husband included. I tell him that all the time. He is trying to come around but I still don't trust him fully. Pastor, keep up your good work. Your night shows don't miss me. My son is a good imitator of you. He tries to talk like you.

C.B

Dear C.B,

Intelligent men are not against me. They appreciate what I have done over the years. They know that I am fair and that I speak the truth. Good men deserve good women and good women deserve good men. Men should not abuse women. Neither should women abuse men. And there are women who constantly abuse men and that is wrong.

Why can't men understand that they can't do without women, and why can't women understand that they can't do without men? We need each other. We are created for each other. Men are uniquely made and women are uniquely made. And they fit each other. Your husband is only saying that he doesn't like me because, evidently, I have mashed his corn. Old people say, "When you throw stone in a hog pen, any one that bawl out is the one that got hit".

I am glad that you stood up for your rights. Your husband should know that Jamaican women are beautiful in every way. But when they are provoked, they will cause any man to tremble. He should be glad that he is still living in your house. Take care, my darling. Love you too.

Pastor