I am 21 and a Christian. I had a boyfriend, and when the relationship was two years old, I became a Christian. We stopped having sex and I got baptised, but we continued to be good friends. We did not go out anymore. Our favourite place we used to go to was the movies. I missed that, but after the movies, we would go to his house and have sex. That we didn't do anymore.

Pastor, I must have been stupid because he called me one day and told me that he could not do without sex, so he had a new girlfriend. I asked him if he would take her to his house and he said, "Nuh mus." I told him not to disrespect me by having sex with her on the sheets that I had bought for him. He asked me if I wanted back the sheets, and I told him no, but those were special sheets.

Then I found myself crying and wondering whether I should have broken up with such a good guy. So I called him back and begged him to come to church and commit himself to the Lord so that we could be together and get married, but he said he was not ready.

I have not found any man as yet, but I am not looking. There are guys at church, but they are not my type. My life is on hold. I am not going to do anything wrong. If I can't get back this guy, I am going to migrate. He calls me now and then just to check up on me.

B.A

Dear B.A.,

You have made a decision to serve the Lord. Don't look back. Don't yield to any temptation to do wrong. Serve the Lord and wait upon him and he will provide for you a good man. Keep yourself active. Take a course online and keep yourself well groomed.

Pastor