Dear Pastor,

My girlfriend and I have a concern. We are getting married in 2016 after we have completed our studies. Both of us are in the States. My girlfriend used to be a Christian and I am trying to be one. But every time we see each other, she wants me to have sex with her, and when I try to resist, she says she will call rape and report me to the police.

I told her that I am going to stop coming to her house because I am not a rapist and I don't consider what she said as a joke. Anyway, Pastor, my girlfriend is very convincing and pretty, and I cannot stay away from her for too long.

She goes to school and she works part-time, so when I go to see her, I cook. I am also a student, but I am on a scholarship. Whenever she comes home and I am there, she goes straight into the bathroom, and for the rest of time, she doesn't wear any clothes, but only a G-string. And no matter how I try to resist her, I can't. If I try to resist her, she wants to know if I am gone the other way. I don't have another girlfriend. Sometimes, I want to just get married and stop fornicating, but she is not interested in getting married until 2016.

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One day while we were having sex, her mother called her and she told her mother that she would call her back later. Her mother said alright. She did not cut off the phone and it was left open, and her mother heard all the groaning and what we were saying while we were having sex.

Her mother said that she handed the phone to her father and he was very upset. They did not know that she was sexually active and they wanted to talk to me.

It took me a long time to talk to them because I did not know what to say. But when I finally spoke to them I promised them, that I will not get her pregnant and I assured them that I am to be blamed, but Pastor, I am not to be blamed. This girl wants us to have sex all the time. She says she prefer to have a man from her own country, but right now, a guy that she has come to know very well is after her but she would prefer that we stay together. Pastor, I love this girl. I don't want to leave her, but she never gets tired of having sex and that scares me. Please give me some advice.

C.T.

Dear C.T.,

You are scared of two things. The first is that you are afraid that your sexy girlfriend might go with another man if you refuse to have sex with her.

The threat she made about calling rape was simply a joke, but I am not surprised that you took that threat seriously as you know that whenever a woman accuses a man of rape in North America, he could be arrested and thrown into jail.

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Perhaps, now that her parents are aware that both of you are cohabiting, they might not object if both of you decide to get married. Please don't misunderstand me. I am not saying that you should get married. I am only concerned about this sexy girl who believes that she should have sex all the time and if you don't live up to her expectations, she might go with another man and that you might lose her. Marriage might not be the best alternative because when you are married and living together, going to school and working can be very stressful.

Pastor