Dear Pastor,

I have a church sister whose husband is very old and sickly. She has become very attached to a man who lives next door, and is repairing his house for his wife to join him. He and his wife lived in England for many years. I know that this man and the woman are having an affair because I see the time that she leaves his house at nights. It is not that I am peeping on her but the man's house and my house are very close, so I know what is going on.

One day I made a joke to her, and asked her if I could get some of that thing from her. She said that I don't have any money and she needs dollars. I told her no, she doesn't need dollars; she needs pounds. She told me I am too fast and that I must mind my own business.

Pastor, I wonder what she tells her husband when she gets home because sometimes she is with the man for hours and I know that they are having sex because I even see when the bathroom light goes on and off before she leaves. That tells me that she went into the bathroom to wash up before she goes home. They are attending the same church.

I believe as a good neighbour, I should tell her husband what I suspect but telling him that his wife is cheating with the returning resident might take him to his grave sooner. He is a good man. His kids are grown and they don't live in Jamaica anymore. What do you suggest that I do? I am looking out for your reply.

U.G

Dear U.G.,

You are really watching this woman. Is it because you

are sorry for her husband or because you believe that if this man who has recently returned from England could be having an affair with her, you should become a part of the action too because you have been living closely to her for a long time. I cannot call you a good neighbour. You are like a Peeping Tom. And when you asked the woman for sex you meant it. It was not a joke.

When you told the woman that she didn't want dollars, she wanted pounds you were hinting that you were aware of what might be going on between herself and the other man. Have you considered that you might be wrong and that you might be judging this woman wrongfully?

I wish to suggest to you to mind your own business. How do you know that the woman is not assisting the man in doing household chores and so on and getting paid for it? Why would you want to suggest to her husband that she might be having an affair with this man? You are going too far. What about your wife? You haven't said anything about her. Do you have a wife? Does she believe that this woman is cheating on her husband? Try to keep your nose clean. I repeat, mind your own business.

Pastor