I've always said that when it comes to sex, persons have multiple personalities. Actually, there is the person in front of their friends, the person at work, the person who's a parent and the most honest of all - the person behind closed doors. But who are you sexually? We are Iiving in a world where sexual expression is freer than it has ever been. It does not matter how you choose to express yourself sexually, it's ok. So why with all this new freedom are people still so dishonest when it comes to their sexuality?

Ok, I understand that some things are still considered taboo and this will cause persons to be cautious about who they share certain information with. But the dishonesty is so prevalent, persons are lying to themselves. It's time sex come out of the closet and step out with pride. Let's look at some of the things people lie about:

Oral sex: When it comes to cunnilingus, men say they will never do it , while women say they absolutely enjoy it. Either the women are lying about it or there is a small group of men working overtime to give these women some tongue action. Listen guys, you go down on us, we like it. We appreciate it and it's about time you stand up and admit that you love having your head clamped between thighs.

Frequency: When a couple just start dating there are questions that they like to ask. One such question is: how many sex partners have you ever had? This question is rarely answered honestly because of the assumption that having too many sex partners is a bad thing. The truth is, we are not as sexually responsible as we pretend to be. Most women answer by giving the number of relationships that she had without counting the drunken times with her 'friend', the one night stand she had while on vacation or even that time she did it with her co-worker on the company retreat. The fact is, when you ask this question it is fair to assume that the answer will not be truthful.

Freakiness: While it seems to be the trend nowadays to embrace the inner freak, it is still not a compliment to be a full on, no holds barred, freak. People are certainly not honest about the freaky things they like or want to try because they are still concerned about how they will be seen. The truth is, many of us want to be tied up, spanked, and pleasured to the point of no return (or maybe it's just me). Instead of hiding our freaky side, we should embrace it, indulge it and see how much pleasure we can get from unleashing the freak.

Sex is private so I am not suggesting that you go around and tell the world your business. All I ask is that you get honest with yourself and your partner, who knows you might discover that you are both into some freaky things. Remember that communication is important to the success in every relationship so go get your freak on. Have fun and stay sexy.

Shelly-Ann Weeks

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Question

Dear Dr Sexy,

My girlfriend tells me that she can have more than one orgasm at a time. I can't do that. Once I have one orgasm, I'm done for the night. Why is that?

Keisha, May Pen

Dear Keisha

You friend is multi-orgasmic, she can have as many as her body will allow, lucky her. Not every woman is multi-orgasmic. The good news is, you enjoy orgasms, indulge in that. There are still women around the world who have not had the pleasure. What you can do to intensify the experience is to delay the orgasm for as long as possible as when it happens, it will be even more mind-blowing.

Have fun

Dr Sexy