Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem and I need your advice. I have tried to call you but without success. I am 17. I have three girlfriends and I am having sex with two of them. One is my neighbour, and she was the first girl I ever had sex with. We did it on a chair in her father's garage. Her mother had gone to the market and the helper was cleaning the rooms, so that was the safest place for us to go.

The helper thought that she had gone to another neighbour's house. She came well armed. She had a flavoured condom and her rag. We kissed and kissed and then she asked me why I was not taking off my pants, so she helped me to take off my pants, and I was surprised because she did not have on any panties.

It was my first time, so I felt a little burning after we had sex, and then she warned me not to go to any other girl, but three months after, I had sex with another girl, and this time, I did not have a condom. And this other girl told me that if I was skilled, I didn't need a condom, and so when I felt like I was about to ejaculate, I should pull out. When I felt I was about to ejaculate, I told her that I was coming, but because of our position, I couldn't pull out. She was on top of me. She, too, was older than I.

I love these three girls

My other girlfriend is 16. I have never had sex with her. We talked about it but she said she was not ready. I love these three girls, especially the first one that I had sex with, but none of them know about the other. The one I had sex with for the first time is very smart and is always texting me and telling me that she wants me and what we should do. Please don't condemn me. I am not forcing these girls to have sex with me.

O.D

Dear O.D.,

Nothing that I say to you will stop you from having sex. But I do want to warn you. If you and your girlfriends are determined to have sex, do not have unprotected sex. And the girl who told you that you should be able to pull out is silly because she should know that it is not always possible for a man to withdraw when he is about to ejaculate. And the woman with whom he is having sex can still become pregnant because sperm seep through a man's penis before the actual ejaculation, and that can get her pregnant. And I must warn you because having unprotected sex exposes you to diseases. You are living in the fast lane and you need to take stock of your life and focus on your lessons and your future.

Pastor