Dear Pastor,

I am 19 and I have a problem. I have a boyfriend but my parents do not allow me to go out so we don't see each other very often. That is why I am writing for advice. I am still a virgin but my mother doesn't believe that I am. She threatened to take me to the doctor to find out if I am still a virgin but I told her that over my dead body, I would not allow her to do so.

My stepfather saw me talking to the guy and came home and told my mother that I have a boyfriend. I did not deny it but I told my mother there was nothing to it and she put curfew on me and told me I should be home no later than 6 o'clock in the evenings. Even when bus is hard to get I have to be breaking my neck to catch one. I don't like my stepfather because I see how he is looking at me. Sometimes when I put on jeans he is always staring at me.

I am going to Heart and I am planning to leave home as soon as I graduate. I am a good girl. I am not rude but my birthday is coming up in June and I promised my boyfriend that I will spend the day with him and I am going to do so. I might even spend the night with him. Others have done it so I can do it and I will get married and try for a baby. I can safely say that our relationship is not about money because I have none. This is my best relationship so far. We are very happy together and I must say that he is a handsome and sweet guy. We love each other so much. So, I am using this medium to say that some of these relationships are very healthy.

In Love

Dear In Love,

Sometimes when I read letters from persons like you, I could only conclude that you believe that you have found the right partner. And whether you are wrong or right, you would not change. So hear me now, you claim that the present relationship you are having with this 25-year-old young man is the best. So, what I can say to you is, may good fortune follow you, roll on.

Pastor