Dear Pastor,

I listen to your show every night. When I miss it live I try to listen to the repeats. I am 40 years old. I am living with my lady friend for 10 years. We have three children. I have a special gift so people come to see me when they are ill or having problems. I have cured lots of people. People call me an obeah man but I don't work obeah. I am not married to this woman with whom I am living, and she is now forcing me to marry her. But I don't find it in my spirit to marry her.

This woman will go away for days and I don't know where she is gone. And she has friends to support her. She stopped having sex with me for a long time so I don't touch her anymore. Because of her I cannot do much spiritual work.

C.L.

Dear C.L.,

How can you be such a spiritual man with a special gift and yet your woman will leave your house and be away for days and you don't know where she is gone? This sounds like foolishness to me. You could help so many people when they are in trouble and your madam can do whatever she wants and you can't figure it out? I don't believe that you are gifted at all. I would suggest that whatever you are doing, and giving people the impression that you are gifted in certain areas, you throw them away and start going to church and read your Bible every day.

Pastor