So now that the Valentine's Day fever has cooled down, let's look at the thing that had us buying flowers and chocolate: Love.

What is love? How do you know when you are in love? For many persons love is a source of challenges and mistrust because of previous experiences. As a matter of fact, I have met persons who say that they don't want to even hear the word love, they prefer if their partner 'respects' them, but love is not necessary at all.

I'm sure some of you have even heard of the 'spirit tek'. Well, if I were to speak for myself about love, I would say that I am a big fan of love. No, it's more than that, I love, love. I get caught up in the romantic comedies, and the sappy movies that the characters live happily ever after.

All fun and joke aside, I think we need to do more to show our spouses and partners love. Yes, special occasions like Valentine's Day, anniversaries, birthdays and Christmas gives us a reason to do something extra, but I think we shouldn't limit our efforts to these specific days alone.

Which brings me to the question of the moment: How do you show your love? I was reading a book called The Five Love Languages written by Gary Chapman and I wanted to share it with you.

Here are the five love languages according to the book:

1. Words of Affirmation - Using words to affirm your feelings. For example: I Love you

2. Acts of Service - For you, action speaks louder than words. For example: Changing the tire on your car.

3. Receiving Gifts - For some people receiving a gift makes them feel most loved.

4. Quality Time - This language is all about giving your undivided attention.

5. Physical Touch - To this person nothing speaks louder that the appropriate touch.

Did any of the love languages speak to you? I personally can relate to a little of each language. For those of you who have been hurt in the past, and have decided to give up on the whole notion of love, I say, move on. Open up your heart to a new experience and even a new person. I know it can be difficult but if you keep reliving the horrible experience of the past, then you will be stuck there. You have to learn to let go. Plus, it feels really good to be in love!

However, you decide to experience your love. Just ensure that you take a little time each day to let your partner know that you do love him/her. Life happens every day and sometimes we take the ones we love for granted. So after you read this, make a call, give a hug or send an email. However you decide to send the message, do not allow the day to end without doing it. Have fun and stay sexy.

Dear Dr Sexy,

I am seeing this man I don't love him but he loves me. I don't want to be in a relationship with him because I have a babyfather already but he is not in Jamaica. This man wants us to have sex but I am not in for that especially for now because I want to go back to school and he wants to have a baby. Please tell me what to do.

Confused, Gordon Town

Dear Confused

It seems to me that you already know what you want to do. Go with your feelings. Don't allow anyone to pressure you into doing anything you don't want. There is a lot of time to figure out what you ultimately want to do. I like that you want to go back to school, and any man in your life who does not support that may not be the right man for you.

Good luck

Dr Sexy

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